I Dumped My Dwell-in Boyfriend. Do I Owe Half of the Payments?

I began relationship a man I actually favored about 10 months in the past. Into our third month of relationship, he acquired a tremendous job supply in one other state and requested me if I might be down to maneuver with him. 

It was a giant dedication, however I made a decision I wish to get away from my tiny hometown, so I agreed to maneuver with him. I’ve two younger kids as nicely from a earlier relationship. (Their dad is just not concerned, so it was a straightforward transfer.) 

He determined earlier than we moved to promote his automotive as a result of the funds have been insane, so he was taking a look at cheaper vehicles. I put the down cost on the car he chosen. It was considerably cheaper than the opposite automotive he had, and we have been going to share it once we moved.

It was a reasonably large effort to seek out housing, however we lastly discovered a home we favored. Lease is pricey the place we’re, so it was a hefty value simply to maneuver in alone. It price us about $9,500 to maneuver, not together with the U-Haul we needed to hire. I spent a bit greater than he did, nevertheless. I had a big lump sum of cash saved up from my earlier job and didn’t actually suppose something of it. 

He purchased an affordable front room set shortly after we moved in. After I say low-cost, I imply CHEAP. I purchased every little thing else for the home: decorations, rugs, towels, kitchen stuff, silverware, every little thing else. Remember, I’ve two toddlers and but I nonetheless paid extra for this home and the issues in it.

Upon shifting, he began his job and I stayed house with the youngsters. With the cash I had saved, I purchased groceries and different issues we would have liked for the home. Day by day he went to work, I stayed house with the youngsters, took care of the home, cleaned every little thing, and at all times had dinner cooked and prepared for him when he acquired house. 

I began to attempt to search for a job as nicely, however with two younger children, it is rather troublesome and the realm we moved to doesn’t precisely have very secure-looking childcare. He paid the payments whereas I paid for groceries and different issues we would have liked. However the cash clearly began to dissipate on my finish. 

After dwelling with him for just a few months, I spotted he wasn’t somebody I wished to stick with. I look after him, however I simply can’t take care of him rambling on and on anymore. He’s so needy and he consistently desires my consideration, however I can’t at all times give it to him as a result of I’ve kids who want me, too. 

He acquired fired from his job shortly after. Then, one thing unhealthy occurred again house together with his household. We determined to maneuver again house earlier than our lease was up. I’m relieved in a means, I’m excited to go house, and I really feel like that is my out with this man. However I’m making an attempt to kind out the cash scenario. 

Contemplating the $3,000 down cost I put down on the automotive and the entire cash I dropped on stuff for the home and groceries, do you suppose I owe him for half of our payments for 3 months there? Or do you suppose he owes me for the automotive since he’s the one driving it and taking it house with him?

-D.