Not solely does prolonging your kiss to 10 seconds take a level of mindfulness and intentionality, that are each nice issues to have in a relationship, however Reed notes that it is also about actively selecting to admire your associate, selecting to create moments of intimacy collectively, and selecting to see them as your lover.
“Lots of people have a tough time with that phrase, ‘lover,’ and the factor is we find yourself being enterprise companions, or roommates, or finest pals,” she explains, including that each one too usually, folks overlook they are often susceptible all through the day, not simply on date evening or once they’re having intercourse. “It is taking that second to actually admire the individual and join, and then you definitely get that large burst of chemical compounds,” she says.
And the 10-second kiss is very useful when greeting one another after time aside, she notes, because it helps to convey you each to the identical “stage,” emotionally, often known as “attunement.”
“It form of breaks the stress of coming again collectively on the finish of the day to kiss for 10 seconds. Now you are in that zone collectively, you have left work behind, and also you’re on this zone of being within the relationship,” Reed explains.